Jeffersonian Dinner
Eight to fourteen people share a meal at one table and hold one conversation about one question. Nobody talks to their neighbour on the side. Guests get the opening question and short bios in advance, and each answers it with something from their own experience before the host opens it up.
Use on the first evening of a leadership offsite, or with a group of peers you want to think together about a question that has no quick answer.
Solves: Offsite dinners split into pairs talking shop with whoever they sat next to, and the people who most needed to hear each other never do.
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Step 1: Send the opening question and one-paragraph bios to every guest a week ahead (before the event).
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Step 2: Seat everyone at one table. State the rules: one conversation, no side talk, what is said stays at the table (5 min).
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Step 3: Opening round. Each guest answers the question from personal experience, two to three minutes each (30-40 min).
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Step 4: Open the conversation. Pose follow-up questions from your prepared list of five to seven as the talk needs them (40-90 min).
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Step 5: Balance the room. Bring in quiet voices by name and gently hold back anyone taking more than their share (throughout).
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Step 6: Closing round. Each person says in one sentence what they are taking away (10 min).
- Pick a question people can answer from their own life, not their job title. Personal answers make the general conversation better.
- Plan the seating so the people who disagree most can see each other.
- Serve courses at natural pauses. Let the meal set the rhythm rather than the clock.
- Lunch version: a shorter table of eight with one question and no follow-up list.
- Themed series: one dinner per evening of a multi-day retreat, each with a new question.